Adam was
alone he was tending the Garden. Apart from the fellowship he had with
God at the cool of the day, there was nobody he could interact with.
There was nobody he could perfect the language that God had given him
with. The creation itself was perfect. The only thing that God
described as imperfect about creation is the loneliness of man. “And
the Lord said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make
him an help meet for him.” Genesis 2:18 Something important was
conspicuously missing. Adam could not figure it out. But God understood
the situation. A need arose and the Creator was up to the task.
Please note the key word. God said I would make “a help-meet
for him,” not against him. Somebody is needed that would perfectly
meet the criteria and needs of Adam. A help meet that will be a
partner with Adam and not a contender with him. A help meet that would
bring about mutual love, mutual attraction and mutual understanding
between the two of them. A help meet that Adam could relate with,
plan with, walk hand in hand with and trust concerning the calling of
God in his life. The purpose of Eve in the life of Adam was to fill the
empty vacuum of his life. God carefully planned and customized the
thought of God on how to solve the problem of loneliness of man brought
about the ministry of woman which is a ministry of help.
Every
unit of families on earth is a project in the hand of God. God intends
that each family may be a reflection of His glory. God appointed a man
as the leader of the family to oversee the affairs of the family. An
adage says, “Charity begins at home.” The dominion of a man starts from
his family. Man must dominate in setting goals and rules and must
dominate in living each day by the rules he had set. As a leader he must
lead by example. Man set the goals therefore man must dominate in the
responsibility of his home. God did not give man fifty-fifty principle
of responsibility in his home. This is one of the selfish devices
of man. The man and his wife are one before God, their goals and plans
before God are one, their minds, one, therefore the couple’s purse and
their expenses must be one.
The
calling of man is a dominion and the calling of woman is a ministry of
help. The nature of the ministry of a man is to dominate. Dominate, not
necessary in the rude sense of it but in overcoming and subduing
situations around him for the purpose of sustenance. This requires
his setting goals and ensuring that they are accomplished. His decision
may be somehow harsh and irrational at times and seem unattainable. I
want you to know that it was not a deliberate attempt to undermine his
wife or to punish his family. Perhaps that is how he thought he can
channel his wisdom to accomplish his goal.
The
ministry of a woman is catalyzing to the ministry of man to fill the gap
of imperfection in man and to help wherever help is required in the life
of man. This requires her setting goals and ensuring that the perfected
end justifies the effort. Her decision and her method of operation
always possess human face because of her inherent care and concern;
thereby apply beautiful color of glory of God unto the life of man.
Again the nature of her method of operation may seem to be time
consuming because of the detailed and meticulous way women handle
things.
Man sets
his focus on the deadline but woman sets her focus outcome of the
effort. The objective of the intention of God concerning their lives is
that their relationship may be mutually dependent upon each other at the
same time mutually beneficial for each other. The termites and the bees
understand this situation differently. They see their queen as the
pillar of their colonies. They see prosperity in her. They behold
strength in her. They build around the queen. They treat her with utmost
care and respect.
There is
no limit to the responsibilities of man over his family because the
whole accountability of his dominion over his family rests totally on
him and God will require it of him in the end if he fails to perform
loyally, honestly and faithfully. There is no limit of help that a woman
can render to her husband concerning the responsibilities of their
family because this is the purpose of her creation and God will require
it of her if she fails to perform loyally, honestly and faithfully. When
the ministry of man and woman blend together and is actively practiced
in a family, it always reflects the glory of God. One of the mysterious
attribute of woman is belief. If you have a believing wife that believes
in you and also believes in the same Almighty God you believe in, there
is nothing you set your mind upon that you will not be able to
accomplish.
The Lord
Almighty, a thoughtful Father, knew that man and woman should have
something important in common before the criteria compatibility could be
met. Think of it, the dust from which Adam was created was not in
short supply, the breath of life was still with the Ancient of Days, but
He chose to create Eve in a unique way for a unique purpose. God
Almighty caused Adam to fall into a deep sleep and his rib bone was
removed to create the first human female. That was it. God created
Eve to be a blessing to Adam.
The
nature of man is to give and the nature of woman is to receive. This
statement should not be misconstrued that man is “father Christmas” and
woman is always at receiving end. At the point of receiving everything
that man can give his wife, God intercepts the gift, blesses it, and
causes it to multiply in her hand. Think of this, brethren: one rib-bone
of Adam is equal to all the bones in the body of Eve. A woman is
designed to be a blessing in the home of a man, because when a little
gets into the hand of a woman, it becomes plenty. Man possesses
millions of seeds but none of them can result into a whole human being
in a man but when few of these seeds get into a woman it will result
into a whole human being.
The
widow cried out in despair to Elisha, the prophet of God, that the
creditors were coming to take her two boys as slaves. Although she was a
wife of a deceased priest of God, she did not know her portion in the
presence of God, but the man of God, Elisha, was not ignorant. He knew
this secret. Elisha replied to her, “How can I help you? Tell me,
what do you have in your house?” The widow replied, “Your servant has
nothing there at all, except a little oil.” ‘A little,’ that was all
that the man of God wanted to hear because God does not need ‘a lot’ to
bless a woman. Elisha said, “Go around and ask all you
neighbors for empty jars. Don’t ask for just a few. Then go inside and
shut the door behind you and your sons. Pour oil into all the
jars, and as each is filled, put it to one side." (II King 4:1-4)
Behind a closed door, there is something that a woman can do to make her
life better. A woman can righteously set a broad scope of goals and tap
in into the divine blessing of God to solve any problem in her family.
Behind a closed door a woman can stand on her two feet and declare,
“Enough of the wicked activities of enemy in her home,” and Heaven will
intervene on her behalf. Behind a closed door a woman can tap into the
Throne of grace in her prayer and obtain divine favor from God. There is
no doubt about this miracle through the servant of God. But the man of
God evoked the miracle that is attached to the covenanted blessing of
the creation of the first woman in the beginning to bless the widow. If
man desires the blessing of God to the fullest, woman is an inevitable
individual that man should deal with along the journey of his life. “Whoso
findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtained favour of the Lord.”
(Proverb 18:22) A wife is a double blessing. She is not only a
‘good thing,’ she is the avenue through which man can obtain favor of
the Lord.
Happy
Mother’s Day, Blessed of the Lord
